I have a plan. It’s the “Be Positive, Celebrate Success, Pray and Say YES!” plan. It costs nothing and is available to everyone! We all need to learn to say “yes” more often.
“Yes” “Right-oh” "Yea”
“10-4” “OK” “Very well”
"Okey-dokey” “You got it” “Affirmative”
“Yup” “Uh-huh” “Totally”
The Oxford Dictionary offers 22 ways to say “yes”! Learn them all. Use them often. Speak them out loud. Repeat them while you are driving. Say them with a smile. Teach them to your children. Share them with your friends. Don’t worry, it’s easy to say “yes” and you will brighten someone’s life with your positive response. Let’s learn to make “Just Say Yes” our mantra. And when we can’t say “yes”, let’s prayerfully and graciously say “no”.
“Just Say No!” We have heard this phrase so many times in reference to keeping kids off drugs. It was first used by Nancy Reagan back in the early 1980s when a school child asked Mrs. Reagan what she should do if someone offered her drugs. The First Lady said, “Just Say No!”
But how does it relate to our service to God and His people? Some of us always just say “no”.
“No” “Nope” “Uh-uh” “Negatory” “Not on Your Life”
The Oxford Dictionary also offers 29 ways to say “no”. I think I have heard them all. I don’t so much mind hearing someone tell me “no” when they do it thoughtfully and kindly. We all have a lot on our plates. We are all busy. We shouldn’t use excuses to try to “out-busy” the person asking for our help. Emily Post suggests we be considerate and respectful when declining a request. She says we should think before we respond and to always accentuate the positive. She’s right except for one thing – we also need to ask God if saying “no” is the right answer!
How often do we pray before we answer a request for help? Probably not often enough. Instead of saying “no”, we should take some time to ask God for His advice and wisdom. We should make sure we have all the details, including the length of the commitment and the amount of time needed to complete the task. Many times a few hours of your time is all that is needed. If you say, “may I get back with you?”, then DO IT! Get back to them one way or the other!
When you have prayerfully determined that “no” is the right answer, do not be afraid or ashamed to say so. Just do it graciously and thank the person making the request for considering you. Then go home and practice your “yes” plan for the next time you are asked.
“Be Positive, Celebrate Success, Pray and Say YES!”
Peace, Blessings and The Light of Christ be Yours